Things I Let My Son Do That Most Parents Of Typical Kids Don't

Tuesday, June 11, 2013 View Comments Autism Speaks

This blog post was originally posted on Autism-Daddy '12 Things I Let My Son w/ Autism Do That Most Parents Of Typical Kids Wouldn't Allow.'

So my son has severe classic non-verbal autism.  And because of that my parenting style is probably totally different than if I had a neurotypical kid.  (but who knows cuz I don't).

Anyway, it got be thinking about all the things that I allow my son to do that most NT parents usually tell their kids not to do.  Some of these I encourage my son to do because it's a typical thing that kids do.  Some of these I let my son do because I pick & choose my battles.  And some I let him do due to the limitations from his disability...

So here they are... no particular order...

1)  EATING WITH YOUR HANDS
This is a combination of picking and choosing my battles and adjusting my expectations due to Kyle's fine motor issues & major eating issues.  When your kid doesn't eat very well to begin with as long as he's getting it down I don't care that he uses his hands.  This might change in the future, but for now this is a battle not worth fighting.  

2) RUNNING IN THE HALLWAY
I always see parents or teachers tell their kids to stop running in the hallway and I think why?  :-)  But seriously the school where Kyle gets his music therapy on Saturdays has a big wide long hallway to his classroom that's PERFECT for a fast run.  So while all the other parents are telling their kids to wait, not run, I'm dragging Kyle by the hand saying "let's run, let's run!"  I'd just love to see him run somewhere with a sense of purpose instead of his usual meandering around.  Plus I like to run.  I run marathons (very slowly) and would LOVE to somehow get Kyle involved in the running community.

3) SPLASHING IN THE TUB OR POOL
It's a right of passage for kids to splash around in the tub.  So what if water gets ALL OVER the floor!  That's what towels are for.  And the pool?!  That's what pools were meant for...  Splashing!  Why are all the NT parents discouraging splashing?  What am I missing?  Did I miss the memo?  :-)  I'm the one dad in the pool who's splashing water in my son's face.  I must look like a big jerk...

4)  EATING BREAKFAST FOR DINNER ...OR POPCORN FOR BREAKFAST OR... SPOONFULS OF JELLY FOR LUNCH
Again my kid's got major eating issues and lost weight a year back so when he's hungry he gets what he wants and that's it.  Other ASD parents know what I'm talking about.  There's another autism blog called Grape Jelly On Pizza.  She knows what I'm talking about.  I'll give my kid a multivitamin to make up for the lack of nutrition.

5) GETTING DIRTY IN THE PLAYGROUND
Every time I take Kyle to the playground I overhear at least one parent say "your getting your pants all dirty!" WTF?  This is what playgrounds are for!  Getting dirty!

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